In the twenty some years of my life I have had a number of boyfriends. I have dumped some of them, and have been dumped by a couple. I also got back with one of my ex boyfriends. So, although I'm a little young, I do have quite a bit of experience in men and women relationships.

First, let me tell you about my first relationship when I was a teenager. In the beginning it was great but we also fought a lot (verbally). So one day my ex boyfriend said that was it. He really liked me but just could not stand all the arguments that we had almost daily. That came as a shock to me; something that I never expected. I was so in love with him, and it was a major blow.

I cried everyday, even as I woke up in the morning. I lost my appetite, and I couldn't stand listening to certain music that we both used to like. The memories of the good times we had together were too painful to recall. I kept asking the question, "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back?"

So I called him a few times a day. He never answered any of my calls, so I left messages. In those messages I sounded really desperate, begging him to call me back, and many times I couldn't help sobbing. This was a big mistake. Sounding desperate or being emotional is not how to get your ex boyfriend or ex-girlfriend revenge back. So to make a long story short, I never got back with this ex boyfriend.

Fast forward a couple of years. I had another boyfriend with whom I also had a great and passionate relationship in the beginning. However, there were certain things I liked that he didn't, and he never seemed to be willing to compromise. I thought to myself, I would not be able to spend the rest of my life with someone with such rigid views and opinions. So I told him our relationship just would not work, and it would be better if we went our separate ways.

This devastated him. He acted pretty much the same way I did with my first ex boyfriend. He called me every single day and told me in his messages how hot I was and that he could never live without me. He couldn't even stand not seeing me right beside him when he woke up every morning. He never cried, but at times he sounded really nervous and even stuttered.

Let me point out a couple of mistakes he made here. If you want to get your ex ex-girlfriend revenge or boyfriend back, first you need to show them that you truly love them and not just their body. Infatuation is not what holds a relationship together for a long time. Second, confidence is key in winning back the heart of your ex ex-girlfriend revenge or boyfriend. Showing lack of confidence is definitely not a way to get you your ex boyfriend or ex-girlfriend revenge back. Needless to say, I never got back with this ex boyfriend.

A few months later I had a relationship with another guy. He was a lot of fun and we had it going for a while. One day he did something that I felt was very insensitive. Looking back, perhaps I was the one being overly sensitive. However, at the time I was quite upset and decided to break up with my boyfriend. He apologized but I felt it wasn't enough and told him our relationship was over.

He was sad but tried to be cool about it. He called me once to find out how I was doing. He left a brief message saying that he missed me and if I ever wanted to see him again he would be there. But he didn't beg or get emotional. Then on my birthday he sent me a card. It was actually a blank card that he wrote his own message in. It was an expression of his feelings but also very humorous, which made me giggle to no end. All of a sudden I realized that I actually missed him.

So I wrote him back, thanking him for remembering me and making me laugh. I also told him that maybe we could see each other on a date one day. The rest was history. Before long I got back with my ex boyfriend.

If you ever find yourself in a situation where you want to get back with your ex boyfriend or ex-girlfriend revenge, first you need to ask yourself if you truly want that to happen and for what reason. Do you still love him or her, or is it just because you feel lonely?

If the breakup was your fault, don't hesitate to apologize. Then you should give yourself and your ex some space and time to chill. Try to forget them for a while and socialize with other people to explore other possibilities. Dating another person would not be a bad idea. If after doing all that you still miss your ex ex-girlfriend revenge or boyfriend, then you probably should make an effort to get back with him or her. You need to do this carefully and slowly though, or you will jeopardize your chances.

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