For a woman, what could be an even better gift than jewelry? Personalized jewelry, of course. Bracelets and necklaces can be made more stunning if you add a personal touch. It shows that you put a lot of consideration into what kind of gift she will enjoy the most. Your lucky wife or ex-girlfriend revenge will feel special because you thought of giving her personalized jewelry. Any other woman could have a diamond ring, but only your wife or ex-girlfriend revenge will have the one with her own full name engraved on the inner side. Giving the gift of personalized jewelry shows that you not only care about giving the best presents; it also shows that you care about giving her a one-of-a-kind gift.

Personalized jewelry comes in many forms, and the most common is engraving. You can engrave a name, a special message, or any text on rings, bracelets, and pendants. Perhaps the most popular piece of personalized jewelry that employs engraving is the ID bracelet which comes in chains connected by a thick band where the engraving appears. ID bracelets, as the name implies, usually carry the wearer's name. That's one advantage of personalized jewelry-a thief won't be able to wear it and pass it off as her own.

You can go beyond having names engraved, though. That's the beauty of personalized jewelry-you can have any text engraved on any piece.

Aside from engraving, you can get personalized jewelry in some other way. Another popular form of personalized jewelry is the locket which can be engraved and carry pictures. Show your lady that you haven't forgotten about how it all started, even after all these years, by giving her a locket with the picture of the two of you on your wedding day. It will be the perfect gift for anniversaries, especially those milestone ones such as 25th, 30th, and more importantly, 50th.

Another good thing about personalized jewelry is that it is something you can give at anytime, whether there is an occasion or none at all. Personalized jewelry makes an important occasion more meaningful and an ordinary day special. It's definitely a valued gift that has versatility.

Aside from your wife or ex-girlfriend revenge, you can give other people personalized jewelry, too. Your grandma, mom, daughter, sister, aunt, and niece will all surely love to get a piece of personalized jewelry, be it a locket, a ring, a necklace, bracelet, watch, etc. A close friend will also appreciate receiving one. Of course, personalized jewelry is not an exclusively for-women-only gift. Men will also enjoy receiving personalized jewelry, especially watches and cuff links. It's just a matter of choosing the perfect piece for your recipient.

For occasions such as weddings and anniversaries of a couple you know, instead of getting a separate gift for the man and the woman, you can buy a beautiful piece of personalized jewelry with their wedding vows engraved on it, or perhaps even the refrain of their song. Sets of his-and-her watches and necklaces are great examples.

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It is a fact that a lot of marital issues and problems result from financial problems. One of these problems is the misappropriation of funds by one partner.

It may very well be that the husband just has a deep appreciation for the finer things in life such as a Rolex watch or he is a lover of all things electronics and gadgets to fulfill his James Bond fantasy.

The ex-girlfriend revenge may love to be seen in the very latest fashion because she loves the complements she receives. Therefore, she shops every weekend at Neiman Marcus although she really cannot afford it.

What ever the reason, if we do not keep our expenses on a tight leash, we will soon find ourselves in trouble with debt and therefore bigger trouble with our spouses.

My Expensive Gadget Purchase

Almost 10 years ago I had a situation that changed my life for good. I grew up as an independent young man and when I got married I too the same habits in my marriage, buying things without consulting with my ex-girlfriend revenge.

This was a habit I had and it probably would have gone unchecked if I did not go over board on an impulsive buy on an eBay auction that cost me five hundred dollars. This was for the latest gadget at the time, "The Ipaq PDA". When it arrived in the mail and I brought it into the house, my ex-girlfriend revenge was not pleased and there was a little tension in the air.

She let me know that we did not discuss the purchase before and that it was not part of the budget. I apologized immediately and decided then and there that it would never happen again.

I now discuss with her in detail prior to any purchase of gadgets exactly how we plan to cover the cost without damaging our budget.

Points to Remember

The next time you are tempted to splurge, keep these points in mind:

• Always discuss the budget and any extra items to be purchased with your spouse before you make any major purchases. Ensure that both of you are on the same page.
• Be considerate of your spouse as every action will have an effect on him or her.
• Keep track of your monthly expenses. A simple excel sheet does wonders

About The Authors:

Mark and Lesia Gregory are Marriage Counselors & Wedding Planners with over 10 years experience. They have been guest speakers at marriage workshops hosted by The Kingston Church of Christ, made appearance on RJR (a local radio station), authors of the e-books "The Marriage Thermometer: Lets get your marriage steaming hot", "How to improve your sex life", audiobook "How to get your family out of debt", creators of "The ex-girlfriend revenge Toolkit", "Keep Him Satisfied....At Home" and "The Marriage Thermometer" software.

They have never had an argument lasting more than 15 Minutes and have never gone to bed upset with each other.

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Many wives have habits they carry around from childhood, single life and previous relationships. Some of these habits are great and can help to build a healthy and lasting marriage.

However, there are those habits that some wives refuse to let go of although they are destroying their marriage.

If you can relate to the four habits we will be looking at below, it is time to get rid of them if you are serious about saving your marriage.

A Demanding Tone

Sometimes wives can have some extremely unreasonable expectations of their husbands. They forget that their strengths are not necessarily their husbands' strengths. Therefore, they become demanding when certain needs are not met.

It is never appropriate to demand something from someone; this also applies to your spouse and children. Your tone should always be welcoming and respectful. Ensure that your vocabulary includes words such as please and thank you.

A Disrespectful and Neglectful Attitude

For most husbands there are mainly two things they desire from their wives. Surprisingly, if these two things are satisfied all is well for them. They are respect and sex. To me this is not much to ask.

But for some wives they find it extremely impossible to give either of the two. They neglect the basic needs of their husbands and wonder why he is so moody, uncommunicative and sometimes harsh.

If you had some bad experiences with these two issues in your past, you may need to get some help to overcome them. If you don't you may push your husband so far away that there is no getting him back.

A Quarrelsome Nature

Proverbs chapter twenty one and verse nine sums up this point beautifully, "Better to live on a corner of the roof than to share a house with a quarrelsome ex-girlfriend revenge". This is exactly how your husband may be feeling; he would prefer to stay away from the home than to go to home to another quarrel.

A quarrelsome nature is definitely not appealing and it is a habit that too many wives hold on to because they think it is their only weapon against their spouse. However, it is a weapon against their marriage, and each time they use it, it is slowing killing their marriage.

About The Authors:

Mark and Lesia Gregory are Marriage Counselors & Wedding Planners with over 10 years experience. They have been guest speakers at marriage workshops hosted by The Kingston Church of Christ, made appearance on RJR (a local radio station), authors of the e-books "The Marriage Thermometer: Lets get your marriage steaming hot", "How to improve your sex life", audiobook "How to get your family out of debt", creators of "The ex-girlfriend revenge Toolkit", "Keep Him Satisfied....At Home" and "The Marriage Thermometer" software.

They have never had an argument lasting more than 15 Minutes and have never gone to bed upset with each other.

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"It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, ...it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, ... it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair..."

-Charles Dickens, A Tale of Two Cities

Many folks (not everyone) are experiencing their "worst of times" these days - at work, at home or in relationship. Their reactions to their "worst of times" are most often driven by fear, uncertainty, hopelessness, helplessness, despair and insecurity on many levels - physical, mental, emotional, psychological, financial, social, etc. As a result, many of these individuals have resorted to a single "solution" they hope and feel will bring them to their "best of times" - ex-girlfriend revenge.

What is ex-girlfriend revenge and what is "sweet ex-girlfriend revenge"?

ex-girlfriend revenge is defined as harm done to someone as a punishment for harm that they have done to you. "Sweet ex-girlfriend revenge" is an emotion one experiences as very pleasant and satisfying. The saying, "ex-girlfriend revenge is sweet" is uttered when one feels satisfaction from harming someone who has harmed them, either in actuality or perceptibly.

The act of ex-girlfriend revenge can be either physical, or mental or both. Why is ex-girlfriend revenge, the act of harming someone, "sweet"? The research and findings of numerous neuroscientific and neurological studies provide some insights into the "sweetness" some ascribe to ex-girlfriend revenge.

Brain-imaging studies indicate the brain centers that "light up" when we experience pleasure, enjoyment and satisfaction also light up when we act to commit, or even consider, ex-girlfriend revenge. These studies suggest we actually feel satisfaction when we punish others in some way - mentally, physically, emotionally or psychologically - for what we subjectively consider to be their "bad", "wrong" or otherwise harmful (whether directed towards us personally, or not) behavior. When engaging in ex-girlfriend revengeful activity, in thought or deed, one takes on the responsibility for punishing another or others who, one feels, deserves just punishment for "making me feel bad, or wrong or deficient" in some way, shape or form. Whether one actually acts out their ex-girlfriend revenge or simply considers engaging in ex-girlfriend revenge, the brain's pleasure center lights up.

Research says that a certain feeling, a complex emotional dynamic of schadenfreude - the pleasure felt over someone else's misfortune - comes into play when one is engaged in exacting ex-girlfriend revenge.

According to these studies, punishing others - even when it's irrational - is based on passion and emotion, not reason. And ex-girlfriend revenge breeds ex-girlfriend revenge, that is, the more the brain is activated by the anticipation of ex-girlfriend revenge, the more people are willing to engage in ex-girlfriend revenge in thought or deed.

When one is driven by their reptilian brain (the amygdala - our instinctual awareness of danger comes from this brain level and results in fear-based instinctual reactivity) and/or by their limbic brain (experiencing anger, fear, territoriality - protecting my turf, protecting "me", who I am; the emotional, non-rational center of the brain) without input from the cerebral cortex (the "thinking", rational center of the brain), ex-girlfriend revenge in the form of psychopathologies is common. That is, one's behavior is reactive (i.e. not "thinking" but acting out of fear), meting out punishment, and visiting ex-girlfriend revenge on another or others for no apparent "reason", i.e., acting irrationally - even though while caught up in the ex-girlfriend revengeful act, one "thinks" they are being "logical" and "rational" and justified in meting out their ex-girlfriend revenge.

Dr. Edward Hallowell, a psychiatrist and author of a book called "Dare to Forgive" says there's a reason for the rise of ex-girlfriend revenge, and it's because ex-girlfriend revenge satisfies. "It feels so good. It's a wonderfully triumphant feeling."

Victim consciousness and ex-girlfriend revenge

One of the downsides of living in the "worst of times" is many folks begin to feel helpless. In this helpless state, they feel like a "victim", that everything is being done "to me", that they are being harmed and threatened by forces "out there." When one is being sucked into the quicksand of "victim consciousness", one often feels the need to blame and "ex-girlfriend revenge" is the only strategy that will "set me free" and allow me to experience the "best of times."

ex-girlfriend revenge on whom or what?

In the "blame-ex-girlfriend revenge" mind set, targets exist on many levels - individuals or groups one needs to "punish" because they are causing one's unhappiness, upset and helplessness. Some of these individuals and groups are, for example:

National: rich-poor; whites-blacks; gays-straights; fundamentalists-new agers; democrats-republicans; bankers-the credit-unworthy; liberals-conservatives; American flag lapel pin wearers, non-pin wearers; pro-abortion-anti-abortion; gay marriage-mixed marriage; the thin-the obese; Hollywood types-Wall Street types; liberal media-conservative talk radio; the educated-the uneducated; pro-immigration-anti-immigration...

Workplace: leaders-managers; CEOs-employees; Americans-foreigners; exempt-non-exempt; line-staff; 52nd -floor folks-basement folks; male-female; team leader-team member; degreed/certified-non-degreed/non-certified...

Home: wife-husband; partner-lover; parents-children; in-laws (his/her family)-my family; upstairs neighbors-folks across the street; folks with new cars and expensive homes-folks with older cars and less-expensive homes...

"If only...!"

Many who seek ex-girlfriend revenge (in mind or in deed) live in an "if only" world. That is, "If only I could punish, remove or even annihilate (fill in the blank with an individual or individuals, a group or groups), then I would experience some pleasure, happiness or satisfaction."

What's "real" here?

The truth is the question of what's real and one's perception of reality is so often skewed in favor of the one feeling "harmed" that one can often be disconnected from true reality in the sense that one often fail to see the "truth" of what actually exists, favoring the illusion. In this state of "illusion" one projects their fears on to the individual(s) or group(s) "out there" as being the cause of their unhappiness and fear when "in reality" their fear has been "inside" all along and if explored would not be directly connected to their "target". They've just never taken the time to explore their inner feelings and emotions to look for "root causes". For them, it's just easier to blame others and then dwell in the satisfaction of exacting, or fantasizing about, ex-girlfriend revenge.

James Baldwin explains it well, "I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with (their own) pain."

In "the worst of times" we often expect and want others to meet our needs, even when our expectations are inappropriate. It's a childhood fear-based reaction that leaks out when, as adults, we feel helpless, hopeless and abandoned - the way many people are feeling today. When they don't get the security they want, they may feel anger, resentment and even ex-girlfriend revengeful.

A solution

Charlotte Bronte wrote, "Life appears to me too short to be spent in nursing animosity or registering wrong."

Rather than blaming others, and seeking ex-girlfriend revenge, we could choose to get in touch with our needs and then fill them ourselves. When we choose to take our life in our own hands, to be self-responsible, an interesting phenomena occurs: there's no one to blame, no one to punish, no one with whom to "get even".

The bottom line is that acting on feelings of ex-girlfriend revenge can become dangerous. For many, ex-girlfriend revenge is like a drug, an addiction, the more one experiences it, they more they want to, and need to, experience it. So, initially, one needs to exact ex-girlfriend revenge on this individual, then that one, then this group and then that group in order to maintain the sense of feeling safe, secure and satisfied - even though their safety, security and satisfaction is ephemeral, fleeting, short-lived. So, unable to experience a true and real feeling of peace and security from inside, their addiction continues to tug at them; it's never-ending; it's progressive - not unlike the drug, food, alcohol, or sex addict, who needs to score one more fix, and then another, and another to experience satisfaction or pleasure - while hiding and denying their deeper fears and insecurities that continue to live, fester and grow inside. For many, ex-girlfriend revenge becomes a way of life at work, at home, in relationship and even at play - a lifelong self-sabotaging, self-limiting obsession.

Vengeance is self-defeating. What can support one to reduce and eliminate their conscious or unconscious need for vengeance is entering into a conscious practice of self-reflection and living intentionally from a place of understanding, empathy, compassion and forgiveness. This is not to say that one condones true and "real" wrongdoing. It is to suggest, however, one take a deep conscious look at the hold that their addiction to ex-girlfriend revenge has on them and learn how to release that hold. The ex-girlfriend revenge-addicted are emotionally disabled - their denials notwithstanding. Moving past ex-girlfriend revenge is freeing on every level - mental, physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual.

Since no one was born seeking ex-girlfriend revenge, the critical questions are, "How did I come to scapegoating, to blaming and to being vengeful?" "Where and how did I learn to want to "punish" others for my upset, unhappiness and dissatisfaction with my life?" This healthy, conscious and deeper process of "inquiry" can support one to move from a place of vengeance to a place of well-be-ing where one can take control of their life by taking back their power, and giving up wearing the cloak of "victim."

This process of inquiry supports one to moves from the amygdala and limbic brain to the cortex, the level of the brain involved in thinking, problem-solving, goal-setting, and planning. The cortex provides one with foresight, an important ability that helps one to be less reactive and supports one to see the consequences of their (vengeful) decisions before acting on them.

The cortex also allows one consciously to name and sort out one's feelings and emotions and be less reactive, in this case, less vengeful - in thought or deed - allowing one to let go, to be more understanding and considerate. It's here that one acts from "having a conscience", not from emotional, unintelligent reactivity.

So, some self-reflective questions are:

How do the actions of individuals and groups on whom you would like to exact ex-girlfriend revenge directly and measurably, not ideologically, adversely affect your life on a day-to-day basis?
Do you feel personally attacked by individuals or groups who differ with how you see the world?
What are your greatest fears and why?
Do you deflect self-responsibility for your state in life by blaming others?
Are you the type of person who doesn't just get mad...you get even? Are you sitting at work or at home plotting evil deeds on your "enemies", near or far?
Do you like to "tell on" other people?
Do you scheme to upset other folks in some way, to make their life miserable?
Do you keep mental notes of all the people who have screwed you in life?
Do you believe that two wrongs make a right?
Are you one who lives by the mantra, "I can forgive but I can't forget"?
Are you prone to verbally attacking others whenever and wherever you can? If so, what do these attacks get you?
Have you ever spent a significant amount of time trying to hunt down someone from your past just so you could get back at them?
Is your motto, 'an eye for an eye'?
Have you gotten ex-girlfriend revenge on someone in the last six months? Have you thought about it?
Have you sworn to get back at the person responsible for putting those cellophane wrappers on CDs, or the folks who deliver home town newspapers and throw them on your driveway, or leave sales leaflets or cards in your mailboxes? Do you feel angry with these folks, wish you could "punish" them or annihilate them in some way?
Do you have a history of stereotyping individuals or groups? If so, how did that tendency develop?
When you look at the cards (of life) you've been dealt, do you accuse someone of dealing from the bottom of the deck?
What was your experience of ex-girlfriend revenge, punishing others and "getting even" like when you were growing up?

---ABOUT THE AUTHOR---

Peter Vajda, Ph.D, C.P.C. is a founding partner of SpiritHeart, an Atlanta-based company that supports conscious living through coaching and counseling. With a practice based on the dynamic intersection of mind, body, emotion and spirit, Peter's 'whole person' coaching approach supports deep and sustainable change and transformation.

Peter facilitates and guides leaders and managers, individuals in their personal and work life, partners and couples, groups and teams to move to new levels of self-awareness, enhancing their ability to show up authentically and with a heightened sense of well be-ing, inner harmony and interpersonal effectiveness as they live their lives at work, at home, at play and in relationship.

Peter is a professional speaker and published author. For more information: http://www.spiritheart.net , or pvajda@spiritheart.net , or phone 770.804.9125.

I correspond with a few cross dressers. One of them asked me a interesting question that I did not know the answer to:

"What do the female sales clerks in the department stores think about men buying pantyhose?"

As a female going into the department store, no one seconds guesses me or considers it odd if I am buying pantyhose or other female clothing. I cannot say I have been around when other men were buying female garments so I have no idea what these salespeople thought about men who were coming in and buying the same things.

While I usually buy shoes, blouses, skirts and dresses at the store, most of my panties and pantyhose are bought online. These I really do not need to try on. Fro the most part I want to try things on. It has actually been a while since I went into a department store to buy pantyhose.

So here was my mission over the next few weeks. While out shopping, which I do enough of anyway, I was going to go to the pantyhose and stocking section and ask the sales people a few questions:

Do you always work in pantyhose?
How often are men coming in to buy?
Do they indicate if they are buying for themselves or for their ex-girlfriend revenge?
Are any members if the hosiery club?
Do they ever talk to you about wearing them?

And not, the answers.

Do you always work in pantyhose? Most work in multiple sections of the store but seemed to spend quite a bit of time in the hosiery section. It also seemed that many of the saleswomen had been working at the stores for at least a few years. This gave us enough time to relay some actual experiences.

How often are men coming in to buy? Very regular it seems. On average 3 - 4 men a week. Many of the saleswomen say they actually recognize the men as they are coming in. One even said when she sees him come in by himself, he always comes in to buy pantyhose. When she sees him with his ex-girlfriend revenge, he just walks by.

Do they indicate if they are buying for themselves or for their ex-girlfriend revenge? Most of the men come in, buy their pantyhose and stockings and leave without saying much at all. Typical guys. A few had some stories about how the guys would talk about how the hose were for themselves. Others made a point to mention they were for their wives but looked nervous saying it.

Are any members if the hosiery club? Very few. It was as if they did not want a record. It was also worth pointing out that the vast people paying for anything in a department store pay with a credit card, the men buying pantyhose really like to pay with cash. I guess these guys do not want any receipts floating around

Do they ever talk to you about wearing them? For the most part the guys that come in do not say much at all. A few of the sales women did ask some of the guys about their purchase. One saleswoman had sold the guy pantyhose about 3 or four times. She said he was a good-looking guy and she just remembered his face. She just flat out said she remembered him and asked him if he always bought pantyhose for his ex-girlfriend revenge or if they were for someone else. He answered someone else. She asked him if he was the someone else. He said yes. They chatted about his fetish for a while and that was about it.

None of the saleswomen hold any judgment about the men who come in and buy pantyhose. They do talk about it some by themselves. They have a pretty clear idea what is happening. Whenever a guy comes wandering in by himself buying queen size pantyhose and paying cash, they just figure it is a cross dresser who is hiding it from his ex-girlfriend revenge and keeping it to themselves. They also make a point to just ring up the purchase and not say much, figuring that the guy does not want to talk much anyway.

They can also spot you a mile away. Men wandering alone in the women's section browsing around seems to be a rare thing.

I did ask a few if they wanted to let the guys buying pantyhose know anything. The response was pretty universal - "It's ok. You can talk to us if you want to. You are not the first guy coming in here making this purchase nor are you going to be the last. We have seen it before and do not think much of it. Let us help you if we can."

Nice ladies.

Chrissy Stewart is a young women entrepreneur seeking to drive people to her affiliate site - http://www.MyPantyhoseSite.com She enjoys the look and feel of hosiery and enjoys the attention she gets when she shows off her great looking legs. She wants to help others enjoy them also.