Being human means we all tend to purposely overlook the 'less than glowing' parts of our behavior and character. Unfortunately for many of us, some of those aspects are the ones that need the most attention. And they require action before anything gets better. If you have an anger problem, the best way to begin addressing it is to increase your awareness as much as possible. And...

Learn to spot the various ways you can sabotage your efforts to manage your anger.
What follows are 3 important behaviors to watch out for:

First: You know a problem exists but don't take any action.

This can happen for various reasons. Some people know they have a problem but don't know where to begin or how to resolve it. If that's you...

Then the easiest action is to simply start educating yourself. You can find online information, or you can go to your public library. And as I said before, start increasing your awareness about your behavior. Most importantly, try to identify your particular anger triggers.

You may already have a good idea about your triggers. But try to be as comprehensive as possible. This will only help you later. Then...

Ask yourself if you prefer the help of a counseling professional. This could mean a one-on-one situation or group setting. It's important to answer this because your success will have a greater chance if you're comfortable.

The opposite of that situation are those who realize a problem exists yet consciously refuse to deal with it. There can be many reasons...

• Resistance to change that can result from fear of change.
• An over-inflated ego often prevents seeking help for any personal problem.
• Procrastination is rampant among us humans, too. And again, fear plays its part with procrastination.

Most of us don't like admitting our own faults. But successfully conquering your anger issues will involve living in reality and not trying to fool anyone. One of your biggest obstacles will be your very own ego. So be as objective about yourself as you can. You'll eventually discover it to be a powerful step to overcoming your anger issues.

Managing your anger can be relatively easy or as difficult as you want. It boils down to how much you desire to be free from it and the effort you put into it.

Start paying attention to feedback from others around you. Give yourself an honest evaluation about yourself.

Third: You believe your anger is justified... and you hold onto it.

This situation may be quite understandable depending upon your personal history and circumstances. But it really only goes so far...

Eventually your anger is only hurting you or the people around you. That's the point when something needs to be done. Positive action is required before your life, and the lives of those around you, will get better.

Realize that desiring ex-girlfriend revenge or forever wanting personal justice to happen is a function of your ego. I stress that some anger-causing actions are horrendous, and these kinds of feelings are completely understandable. Justice for crimes committed is separate from this discussion. I'm referring to the personal kind of justice, or 'getting back' at someone.

Justice isn't always a possibility, or legally needed. Often times the actions that caused your anger were not intentionally negative. Parents and other prominent people who influenced you were living in ignorance. And they had no idea how they were really affecting you. I know this from personal experience, but I also believe it's very common.

So the choice is yours, as always. You can continue satisfying your ego, or ask yourself what you desire the most.

Do you want to continue living with anger? Do you want to continue suffering the many consequences that chronic anger causes? Or do you want to take action to end it? While thinking about this... be sure to think of others in your life who are affected.

If you choose action to end your anger... then focus on your goal, get help, and do not ever give up.

Ken Thompson, http://www.EscapeFromAnger.com, is a survivor of living for over 20 years with chronic anger. He knows and understands from experience the issues and difficulties associated with anger. He also understands the difficulties involved with overcoming chronic anger. Ken successfully resolved the anger in his life through many years of self-study and personal effort. He offers a distillation of effective techniques designed to permanently remove chronic anger.

Norm appreciated good customer service. Every time he entered Cheers he was greeted by an enthusiastic crew that gave him a warm smile and a shout out of his name -Norm! What more could he want-terrific service and a product he was very fond of. In fact, everyone who visited Cheers enjoyed the same attention, even Cliff. But Cheers was a television show, a visit to a fictional venue, and not a peek into the real world of business. Or was it?

My ex-girlfriend revenge and I recently traveled to Chicago and Nordstrom's was at the top of her itinerary. She told me that upon entering the store she was greeted with a warm smile by a store clerk who introduced herself and then politely asked my ex-girlfriend revenge her name and how could she be of assistance. After listening to my ex-girlfriend revenge's needs, the clerk immediately set up a dressing room for my ex-girlfriend revenge, placed my ex-girlfriend revenge's name above the door and the serious shopping began. Never think great customer service doesn't pay!

Locally I do my personal and business banking at Kennebunk Savings Bank. Not because they shout out my name when I enter the bank, though they do know it, but because when my ex-girlfriend revenge and I have a question or need, they take care of us-quickly, professionally and pleasantly. Never a hassle and always without any attitude. They make it easy. I am a loyal customer because they provide us good customer service.

How do you and your employees treat your customers? When a customer enters your reception area, how is she greeted? Warm smile? Friendly hello? It begins with the little things and builds from there. But if you and your employees are not committed to it, it doesn't matter whether you have a catchy "the customer is always right" slogan or a great deal. Your customers won't do business with you.

A new beautiful supermarket was just built in my community. I was excited about their arrival, but a year later I find myself traveling elsewhere to shop. Why? Because I was repeatedly ignored. Their staff finds conversations amongst themselves more important than responding to my questions and my presence at the checkout seems to be a distraction. And before you think it might be a generational issue, stop. All of the employees, including the managers, act the same way. And that's the key. Good and bad customer service begins at the top and flows down. Employees mirror the attitudes and behaviors of their managers.

Nordstrom and Kennebunk Savings Bank's success isn't accidental. They work at it. Starting at the top, they are committed to treating their customers well. They expect their employees to act in a certain way and they get it. After all, you get what you expect. At the same time, if you want a committed and engaged staff that is focused on the customer, you have to take care of them. Positive employee relations and good customer service go hand and hand. You cannot have one without the other.

Customers don't interact with organizations. They interact with people and it is that experience that determines whether they buy or not; whether they become loyal customers or a lost opportunity. When your employees are engaged with your organization, when they believe in and enjoy what they are doing, then those positive feelings extend to the customer. Happy employees make happy customers and this translates into increased sales and profits. The attitude and feelings of your employees directly influences the customer experience.

Good customer service must be ingrained into the fabric of an organization. Managers must take every opportunity to preach its importance and benefits to their employees. Demonstrating frequently what you expect, whether its how to great a customer or how to respond to a complaint. Never assume "people should know." Managers have tremendous influence over the level of employee commitment, which ultimately influences the customer experience.

Take a look at your organization. Watch how your employees engage your customers. Listen to their conversations. Now watch how your managers engage their employees. Listen to their conversations. There should be no differences. A positive customer experience is dependent on the level of employee commitment and engagement.

Good customer service brought Norm back to Cheers day after day. Your customers should have the same feelings about your organization.

Rick Dacri is an organizational development consultant, coach and expert in human resources. Since 1995 his firm, Dacri & Associates (http://www.dacri.com) has focused on improving the performance of individuals and organizations. Rick publishes a monthly newsletter, the Dacri Report (http://www.dacri.com/enewsletter.htm) with the intent to provide clients and friends critical information on issues that impact them, their organization and their employees. Rick can be reached at 1-800-892-9828, or rick@dacri.com

When your ex-girlfriend revenge is chronically ill it can be hard for her to think "romance." She may be in a great deal of physical pain or also suffer from side effects of the illness or medications, such as weight gain or loss, a "puffy prednisone," or even feeling sick to her stomach. She may also be dealing with the loss of her career and dealing with grief.

Be assured that you are not alone. Nearly 1 in 2 people in the USA live with a chronic illness and so many marriages are impacted. Unfortunately, nearly seventy-five percent of them end in divorce when an illness is that "third party" in the marriage.

Is it possible for you to make a difference and let her know you want to romance her? Of course! With a few simple ideas, you can get the spark back into your marriage.

Go ahead and buy her that box of chocolate, but if she is watching her weight, don't ruin her diet. Instead find some Russell Stover's sugar free chocolate at your local Target or even the pharmacy. Chocolate, along with coconut, pecans, and many more, all contain phenyl ethylamine, a chemical that produces the feeling of "being in love." Good place to start, don't you think?

Be affectionate by simply reaching for her hand. Yes, I know you're hoping for more than holding hands, but if she's in physical pain it's going to take some real romance on your part to distract her from pain and get her refocused on you. Rub her back (gently!), cuddle, snuggle and don't pressure her for more. Pretty soon she'll be reaching out to you.

Pour out your heart about how much you admire the strength she shows in the darkest moments. Let her know you know that living with illness is difficult and that you are blessed to be married to someone with so much character and joy. Remind her that you love her and are in it "in sickness and in health."

Pamper her by purchasing her something that she wouldn't splurge on for herself. Let her know you are listening to her by purchasing a CD that she says has one of her favorite news songs on it. Buy her a down comforter for a cozier bed. Brainstorm about item that she could enjoy when she isn't feeling well.

Schedule a retreat for her at home. Find care for the kids, bring home dinner, and don't say anything when you come home at 6 p.m. and she's still in her pajamas.

Write little notes that she can find any time. And don't forget to say thanks too! For example, if she does laundry, put a note in your own sock drawer to find when she puts them away that says, "I know laundry isn't easy for you to do. Every time I find clean socks here I am reminded how much you love me and how blessed I am."

Being romantic at home isn't hard. Purchase a fondue pot and tell her that you will bring home something to dip every Wednesday night so you two can sit and have a conversation over candlelight (and cheese, chocolate, marshmallow, etc.)

Are you having troubles starting up some romantic conversations? Buy a book about conversation starters or fill a jar with topics. Do a search online for "romantic conversation starters."

Don't forget to make a few changes in the bedroom to spark some romance. As silly as it sounds, candles, roses, and a great play list on your ipod tells her that you cared enough to set the mood for her.

It's no surprise that women are complicated beings and rarely can you read her mind to know exactly what she needs and when she needs it. So be sure to just ask her outright. "What is on your mind most these days? How can I help you around the house more? What can I do to communicate just how much I love you?"

The good news is that perfection is not a requirement. Just by making the effort to increase the romance in the relationship will score you some big points. And she may not let you even have a chance to finish reading that book on romancing your ex-girlfriend revenge, because if she sees you reading it, your willingness to read it may be all the romance she needs. One last piece of advice, doing the dishes or the laundry really can be the best way to your ex-girlfriend revenge's heart.

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So, your ex-girlfriend revenge has left you. Did you do something wrong, like cheat on her or lie to her? Did the relationship dissolve due to differences? Whatever the reason, there is a way to sort it out, as long as you know how! Learning how to get your ex ex-girlfriend revenge back is knowledge that will prove priceless!

Here are five helpful hints and tips for you to get your ex ex-girlfriend revenge back, no matter how and why you broke up:

Number one, talk to her. Why did she leave you? What was wrong in your relationship? You cannot sort out a problem if you do not know what the problem is, and if you do not ask her, unless you want to guess, there is no way of finding out. If she won't talk to you, send her an email, text her once, and phone her once. (Not all at once!) Tell her that you appreciate she needs space, but when she is ready to talk, you would love to listen. Give her a couple of weeks, and then try again.

Number two, listen to her! It's all very good and well asking her what the problem is, but if you don't listen, you are still no clearer to being able to get your ex ex-girlfriend revenge back, and the whole asking process would have been a waste of time. (Especially if you had to wait a couple of weeks to talk to her)

Number three, remember that her friends and her family will be on her side. Although you would think that if you are grown up to be in a relationship, you will be grown up to break up in a dignified manner, but that is not the case. There will be sides, and there will be obstacles, especially if you, the man, is in the wrong! Trying to talk to her friends will be impossible, and will just give them more ammunition to tell her not to get back with you. Only talk to such people if you are sure you are not in the wrong!

Number four, make the appropriate changes. If she left because you never do the dishes, start doing the dishes, even when she is not around, just to prove a point, not only to her but to yourself. If you have cheated, well that's a different matter, and to get your ex ex-girlfriend revenge back after such an incident, you need to earn back her trust. If you are not romantic, add a few romantic touches to your relationship, and try romantic gestures to win her back. Whatever the problem, there will be a way to fix it, and if you are that dead set on getting her back, you will try anything.

Number five, keep the changes going. If she doesn't come back straight away, don't jump into bed with the next available female, pine for her. Miss her, and realize why you want the relationship back. Tell her this, by email. (It's easier and less embarrassing than when you do it face to face) If you want to get your ex ex-girlfriend revenge back, work for her!

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Every woman enters a marital relationship with all kinds of expectations. Some of this expectations are quite normal while others are quite exaggerated. However, there are general things that women want and expect in a relationship. They expect a man to be loving. Loving enough to be able to show it and tell them that they love them. Though to you it might seem stupid and that you are with them and that is enough proof that you love them, women expect to be told and reminded once in a while that they are loved. Get them a gift or a flower and a card and tell them that you love them and appreciate them.

If you have children in a marital relationship, the women expect that you will help them take care of the children and that you will share the responsibility of waking up when there is a problem with the children or taking them to school and attending all their games. If you leave all this to your ex-girlfriend revenge, the only thing you will get from her is resentment. This is because they expect you to help out. A little help, even if it is very little will go a long way in making your ex-girlfriend revenge to love you. At the end of it all, you also want your ex-girlfriend revenge to fall in love with you just like you love her, so do what she expects to make life better for both of you.

In a marital relationship, a woman expects to be listened to. Sometimes they could be having a very important point that you will miss if you do not listen to her. Some men have the tendency of saying women are not bright and they are far much better off quiet than talking. This is not true, there are bright women out there, in fact some are brighter than most men. When she talks and tries to make you see a point listen and if you do not see the point she is making you can tell her in a polite way. The most important part is that you listen. If you are having a conversation with her, do not appear to be the one who keeps talking, give her a chance to air her views about something. She also has views you should know.

Women in a marital relationship expects that a man will be able to create time for her. A man should never be too busy to see his own ex-girlfriend revenge. If you are too busy, you will be communicating to your ex-girlfriend revenge that she is not important and that money and other things are far much important than her. As much as money is needed for the daily running of the household, you should also create time in between your making money and sleeping hours to see your ex-girlfriend revenge and treat her in a special way. If you do all these, you will be surprised how you relationship will change from better to excellent. Go on and meet some of your ex-girlfriend revenge expectations. You might not meet all of them but you would have tried.

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