In the twenty some years of my life I have had a number of boyfriends. I have dumped some of them, and have been dumped by a couple. I also got back with one of my ex boyfriends. So, although I'm a little young, I do have quite a bit of experience in men and women relationships.

First, let me tell you about my first relationship when I was a teenager. In the beginning it was great but we also fought a lot (verbally). So one day my ex boyfriend said that was it. He really liked me but just could not stand all the arguments that we had almost daily. That came as a shock to me; something that I never expected. I was so in love with him, and it was a major blow.

I cried everyday, even as I woke up in the morning. I lost my appetite, and I couldn't stand listening to certain music that we both used to like. The memories of the good times we had together were too painful to recall. I kept asking the question, "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back?"

So I called him a few times a day. He never answered any of my calls, so I left messages. In those messages I sounded really desperate, begging him to call me back, and many times I couldn't help sobbing. This was a big mistake. Sounding desperate or being emotional is not how to get your ex boyfriend or ex-girlfriend revenge back. So to make a long story short, I never got back with this ex boyfriend.

Fast forward a couple of years. I had another boyfriend with whom I also had a great and passionate relationship in the beginning. However, there were certain things I liked that he didn't, and he never seemed to be willing to compromise. I thought to myself, I would not be able to spend the rest of my life with someone with such rigid views and opinions. So I told him our relationship just would not work, and it would be better if we went our separate ways.

This devastated him. He acted pretty much the same way I did with my first ex boyfriend. He called me every single day and told me in his messages how hot I was and that he could never live without me. He couldn't even stand not seeing me right beside him when he woke up every morning. He never cried, but at times he sounded really nervous and even stuttered.

Let me point out a couple of mistakes he made here. If you want to get your ex ex-girlfriend revenge or boyfriend back, first you need to show them that you truly love them and not just their body. Infatuation is not what holds a relationship together for a long time. Second, confidence is key in winning back the heart of your ex ex-girlfriend revenge or boyfriend. Showing lack of confidence is definitely not a way to get you your ex boyfriend or ex-girlfriend revenge back. Needless to say, I never got back with this ex boyfriend.

A few months later I had a relationship with another guy. He was a lot of fun and we had it going for a while. One day he did something that I felt was very insensitive. Looking back, perhaps I was the one being overly sensitive. However, at the time I was quite upset and decided to break up with my boyfriend. He apologized but I felt it wasn't enough and told him our relationship was over.

He was sad but tried to be cool about it. He called me once to find out how I was doing. He left a brief message saying that he missed me and if I ever wanted to see him again he would be there. But he didn't beg or get emotional. Then on my birthday he sent me a card. It was actually a blank card that he wrote his own message in. It was an expression of his feelings but also very humorous, which made me giggle to no end. All of a sudden I realized that I actually missed him.

So I wrote him back, thanking him for remembering me and making me laugh. I also told him that maybe we could see each other on a date one day. The rest was history. Before long I got back with my ex boyfriend.

If you ever find yourself in a situation where you want to get back with your ex boyfriend or ex-girlfriend revenge, first you need to ask yourself if you truly want that to happen and for what reason. Do you still love him or her, or is it just because you feel lonely?

If the breakup was your fault, don't hesitate to apologize. Then you should give yourself and your ex some space and time to chill. Try to forget them for a while and socialize with other people to explore other possibilities. Dating another person would not be a bad idea. If after doing all that you still miss your ex ex-girlfriend revenge or boyfriend, then you probably should make an effort to get back with him or her. You need to do this carefully and slowly though, or you will jeopardize your chances.

I have given you a few tips on how to get back with your ex boyfriend or ex-girlfriend revenge. These are the things I learned from my own experience and from talking to other people.It is to your advantage tolearnmore strategies and techniquesif you're serious about getting back with your ex ex-girlfriend revenge or boyfriend.

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If you were to ask me to pick one factor that was responsible for conflictId have to choose miscommunication, hands-down, as the primary factor. Why? Because miscommunication opens up the triangle of other factors that inevitably leads to conflict.

Let us discuss this miscommunication conflict triangle. Picture a triangle with miscommunication taking one side, fear taking another, and assumption taking the third side.

Miscommunication

How does miscommunication happen? It happens when one side doesnt communicate enough information to us, or we misinterpret the real meaning of their words. In either case, we get a different meaning of their words than they intended. With the advent of e-mail and IM chat, this is a becoming a common problem now-a-days because type-based communication is asynchronous communication, meaning that people do not communicate in real timeits essentially a telegram. Asynchronous communication does not allow for immediate feedback response, so our minds have to interpret what the other person is saying based upon their typed words alone. Although most common in typed-based communication, miscommunication can also occur in any type of communication setting. Another common type of miscommunication is no communication or a lack of communication.

Fear

People always fear the worst outcome. In miscommunication, the mind will fill in the missing information with their own creative insight, which is often fear-based. Think of the husband who is out late and forgets to call his ex-girlfriend revenge. Because there is a lack of communication there, she begins to worry and her mind immediately switches to fear mode. Self-talk occurs and it takes the form of her own fears. Did something happen to him? Is he cheating on me? Our minds will always think of the worst possible outcomes based on our fears and insecurities.

Assumption Believed As Truth

Our minds need logical explanations to events. One of our most basic needs is the need to have answers and the need for reasons and explanations. Absent those needs, our minds switch to a fear-based mode where we have to satisfy our need for answers with that of assumption. Assumption is a derivative of fear because we always assume the worst based on our fears and insecurities. Assumption therefore fulfills our need for a logical explanation for the unexplainable event and we tend to become locked into that assumption, believing it as truth. The ex-girlfriend revenge, who might be insecure about their relationship, might remember the time when she caught her husband flirting with the secretary, and her fears will drive her to make the assumption that her husband must have gone out to meet her.

What To Do?

When we are faced with miscommunication, we must keep our minds open to additional possibilities without adopting a certain truth about the other person until we know exactly from them what they are thinking. How can this be accomplished? Well, your fears and assumptions will automatically kick in. There is no way to fend against that because that is how our minds are wired. Instead of adopting those assumptions as the truth however, simply acknowledge those assumptions as one possibility out of a number of possibilities. List other possibilities with your assumptions and acknowledge them all without judging or evaluating them. Simply tell yourself, "These are all possible, but we dont know the truth yet, so I wont lock myself into any one of them." By keeping your mind open to additional possibilities, you can break the assumption triangle and prevent miscommunication conflict from happening.

Tristan Loo is a conflict management expert and founder of Alternative Conflict Resolution Services in San Diego, California. He's the author of Street Negotiation--How To Resolve Any Conflict Anytime. Tristan uses his law enforcement experience to train others in the prinicples of defusing conflict and reaching agreements. Visit his website at http://www.acrsonline.com or e-mail him directly at tristan@acrsonline.com

There are many things that keep a good marriage together. Good lovemaking is one of them. Both husband and ex-girlfriend revenge should be able to satisfy each other. They should know sexually each other more than anybody else.

If it was that easy married couples would never have problem. They would always have their sexual partner to satisfy them. Unfortunately a lot of couples don't get satisfied during sex. That's because their partner doesn't know anymore how to give them pleasure.

You have to learn how to pleasure you partner. You have to learn how turn him or her on. You have to find the right moment, when your spouse have sexual desire and she or he can feel that both of you can be satisfied.

Good sex life needs maintenance. Good sex life also needs fresh ideas every once in a while. If you do things the same way over and over again it becomes a routine.

Sometimes it helps to try new sexual positions. You should try whatever she likes and comfortable for her. But don't hurt yourself. Sometimes oral sex can be very enjoyable for her too, if it's done the right way. Both of you can learn some new oral love making techniques. Once you regain sexual intimacy she will let you know what she likes, and she won't fake it.

Sometimes premature ejaculation can cause a problem. You can't satisfy her if your erection doesn't last long enough. With the proper exercise you can prevent premature ejaculation. With some penis exercise you can even make your penis bigger, without taking pills.

Intimacy is very important in a happy marriage, sexual intimacy is important too. If you ever lost it learn how to gain it back.

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Its a no-no to tell someone you dont like their gift because its the thought that counts, right?

Sure, but just how nice are your thoughts towards your gift giver who doesnt listen in order to know what your likes and dislikes are? How disappointed are you when with anticipation you unwrap your gift to stare down at an ugly pair of socks, or when your husband of four years decides his wife would absolutely love a broom for Valentines Day?

Gift giving is more than just the thought. Its the thought, the gift, the intention the whole package. The best gifts are ones that directly think of the recipient, thats truly when the thought counts.

If you know your boyfriend will just about die for the whole collection of South Park, then why buy him a tie? What value would your ex-girlfriend revenge find in a pretty package of art supplies when she has no interest in painting?

Weve devoted a whole page on our website with Horror Gifts Received.

Take for example the man who received a box of chocolates from his ex-girlfriend revenge who should have known that he was allergic to it. Or the man whose ex-girlfriend revenge gave him tickets to a show he didnt want to see.

When it comes to your loved ones, gifts shouldnt be given out of obligation but from the heart.

Gifts that are appreciated can be practical or they can be impractical. This depends on what your recipient wants or would like.

When I was at college I really needed a text book on C programming. I kept borrowing a copy from the library but there were times when they were all taken. At that time, I couldnt afford to buy one for myself. How would I have loved a text book as opposed to the sterling silver bracelet my then boyfriend gave me? It was a lovely gesture but

To find the perfect gift, we have to tune into that person. Listen to what they have to say. Did you watch the Friends episode where Ross bought Rachel the broche she had seen in a shop window some months ago? Whats what I mean by tuning in. Find what the person wants and then give it to them. Thats when the thought really counts.

You know when you have done a good job with your gift selection when you absolute astonish your recipient.

There are times when we dont know what our recipient would like. There are safe gifts we can give. Safe gifts are flowers, a gift basket perhaps, even a bottle of wine - something that is popularly considered nice. Safe gifts are what we give people we dont know too well.

From someone that has been disappointed many times and astonished others, if you are to give, listen to what your recipient wants. You will find they will treasure you and your gesture 100 fold.

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