A few days ago my ex-girlfriend revenge telephoned me at work to tell me about a cocker spaniel puppy she had seen. It was so cute and could we buy it? I pointed out that we already have a pet dog and that we could do without extending the pack right now. Now, much as I love my dog I am also very aware of the responsibility that comes with him and the fact that he is quite a tie. The last thing I want right now is a second dog in the house. There is also the question of expense to consider and I made my argument against getting a second dog along these lines.

After minimal protestation my ex-girlfriend revenge gracefully accepted my point of view and I congratulated myself on my superb persuasion skills. That evening I returned home from work and my ex-girlfriend revenge said, 'Katy would like to ask you something.' Now, Katy is my youngest daughter and I was pretty sure what was coming next.

I was expecting more pressure to buy the puppy but this time with my daughter applying emotional blackmail. In fact, my daughter asked for a guinea pig instead. Imagine my relief. That did not sound so bad and a guinea pig would be a lot less expensive than another dog.

Within minutes I found myself agreeing to Katy's request. Had I been conned? Such was my relief at not being pressed on the question of the puppy that I readily agreed to the guinea pig. Would I have agreed so easily if I had been asked for a guinea pig in the first place? I doubt it.

Now, I consider myself to be a pretty good negotiator but I had fallen for one of the oldest tricks in the book. Make an outrageous demand and then drop your demand to your real target and you will have much more chance of getting what you want.

I made the cardinal sin of not concentrating and ended up losing hands down.

Just to put the record straight I don't for one minute think that my ex-girlfriend revenge and my daughter deliberately set me up. However, I did return home last night to discover that we had acquired not one but three guinea pigs. The explanation was that we had to have one for each of my three children. Which leads me to another lesson learned from this encounter. Always be sure to agree what has been agreed at the end of a negotiation - preferably in writing.

Wolfgang Halliwell is a learning and development consultant who has authored a number of courses for Trainer Bubble.

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Marriage without the intimacy and release of sex becomes a dull and fragile thing which can destroy a good marriage by sucking the joy and closeness out of what should be an amazing experience in love, physically, spiritually and mentally. If all these great things are enabled by making love why is your marriage becoming sexless? There are a few conclusions women will come to when trying to define this problem but unfortunately most of them are wrong!

Many women take the path of self loathing believing that their husband does not find them attractive anymore; perhaps they think they have put on weight or do not have time to dress up anymore or they think that whatever fire of passion that was there has gone out because they are too familiar or that life is hard. In any case the ex-girlfriend revenge blames herself which is terrible for mental health and confidence which becomes another issue. Why this is so wrong is that men appreciate confidence in their women just as women like confidence in men, a ex-girlfriend revenge who wallows in self pity because she feels unattractive becomes the thing she does not want to be psychologically and eventually physically driving home a sexless marriage complex that infects both partners

The opposite spectrum are women who blame their man, perhaps they suspect him of having affairs or that he has become impotent and lost his sex drive. This can lead to resentment and sometimes to the ex-girlfriend revenge having affairs as revenge or as a release which only makes matters much worse in a sexless marriage

So what is the REAL reason your marriage is becoming sexless? This is a complex issue but what many marriage counselors and therapists have found over the years is that men who stop having sex with their wives are rarely having affairs and nearly always still love their partner very much. What does this mean? It means the problem is more often than not the mans and often it is psychological.

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It is no secret that going through a divorce is a costly endeavor, but people often underestimate the danger that it could pose to your credit. The main problem, which many people are unaware of, is that lenders are not required to follow court decrees. These decrees assign the responsibility of paying off loans to one person, however, lenders may choose to ignore this decree and still expect you to make payments on your loan. Assuming that you are no longer responsible for a loan and the obligations that go along with it can lead to missed payments and overall damage to your credit.

Take Care of Finances Early

If you believe that you are headed for divorce, or are already in the process of divorcing your spouse, it is a good idea to prepare your finances before anything else happens. If you have a joint account - it should be split immediately. Mortgages and car loans should be refinanced.

It may be more useful in the long run for you to sell any property that has a high payment attached to it. One person may not be able to shoulder the payments of what used to be a two-party loan. Selling any large property might also take some of the stress out of the divorce proceedings since there will be no large property to argue over when it comes time to divide your belongings.

Divorces can often turn very ugly very quickly. Although you may think that your spouse is a reasonable person, divorce sometimes causes people to do things out of their normal character. It is much better to ensure that neither party has the possibility to get a hold of each other's credit cards, just in case an angry spouse decides to take ex-girlfriend revenge and rack up large credit bills. Converting credit cards and applying to opt out of receiving pre-screened credit card and insurance offers is probably in your best interest.

A Divorce Lawyer Can Help

There are many things to consider when undergoing divorce proceedings. Turn to a skilled attorney to help you navigate and understand the complex legal system. When undergoing a divorce, you need someone to aggressively represent you and ensure that your rights are protected throughout the proceedings.

Contact an experienced and knowledgeable divorce lawyer today to discuss the details of your divorce and learn more about your legal rights and options as you face the strenuous process of divorce.

Joseph Devine

This is a life-altering read for anyone that has lost a loved one to the insane grip of hate and ex-girlfriend revenge. Dare To Forgive explores the self-defeating stubbornness of humans when it comes to our insistence that we be right, instead of being happy. Dr. Hallowell offers simple but effective ways of taming our stubborn egos so we can get on with our lives, instead of wasting them on misguided feelings of betrayal.

As Dr. Hallowell points out, most of us were told as children that forgiveness was the right thing to do, but we did not see the real benefit of it and subsequently never learned how to really do it properly. We said sorry, but nothing happened beyond that. In fact we probably did not really mean it at all. Society assumes that we know how to forgive. Dr. Hallowell's experience has shown that this is not true. Often the process of forgiveness is something that we have never learned, however, he goes on to explain, like other skills in our lives, it can be learned. Dr. Hallowell says it is not an easy thing to do, but the benefits to our wellbeing are well worth the effort.

Dr. Hallowell reminds us of the emotional and physical disorders that arise out of distrust, hate and ex-girlfriend revenge and how forgiveness can "cure" us of them. In the process of forgiving, he explains how we set ourselves free from those negative emotions and ultimately help ourselves even more than the one we forgave.

This book helps to awaken a part of your personality which probably exists in some form but has never really been developed to the point that it could be of benefit to you. It explains the basics of forgiveness and all the emotional baggage that you can get rid of by learning how to forgive. Many of the self help books out today give us a lot of advice on how to better ourselves and find inner peace, but few of them tell us how to engage our fellow human to get here. Not only does the process give the one forgiven a gift but you are the one who receives the true gift, that of being freed from the bondage of all the negative emotions that weigh you down and prevent you from becoming your true self.

Dr. Hallowell has provided the owners manual for forgiveness so we can all start finding inner peace through outer peace! This should be a must read for all World Leaders, I think they could learn something too!

For more information and excerpts from Dr. Hallowell's book, please stop by Rick Basset's lens on Squidoo, Dare To Forgive by Dr. Edward Hallowell.

Rick Basset's sites are dedicated to peace and understanding of ourselves and our fellow humans. Please visit him at Change Your Mind - Change Everything!