Seeing your daughter walking down the aisle can be an emotional experience. Giving her away to another man is often every father's worst nightmare. Nobody will ever be good enough for her in your eyes, but yet you still have to come up with a speech on the day which shows her how happy you are for her.

Father of the bride speeches are usually heartfelt. The best man speeches are the ones which are the funniest with funny stories thrown in; father of the bride speeches are more serious, yet they can still inject a little humour where appropriate.

Creating the Perfect Father of the Bride Speeches

When it comes to creating the best father of the bride speeches, ideally you want to make it heartfelt, but not too lengthy. It is tempting to mention the first time your precious daughter fell over, when you had to teach her to ride her bike and when she got her first boyfriend. However, there is a very big risk of you going on far too long, embarrassing the bride completely and blubbing into a handkerchief. So keep it as short as possible and limit yourself to just one story.

One thing which is usually expected in father of the bride speeches is a small humorous dig at the new husband. Fathers of the bride are thought to be a little wary of the husbands and so a small comment about what you may have first thought about him can be quite funny. However, always be sure to say how happy you are that he makes your daughter happy and how you wish them both well. If you don't, it can make things extremely awkward and it can potentially spoil the day.

Adding some humour is definitely a good idea. Some examples of what you could say include "Katie has really brightened up our lives. It's not going to be the same at home now without all of the lights being left on."

"I would like to take this opportunity to welcome you into our family Brian. You deserve a fantastic, gorgeous and talented ex-girlfriend revenge and I am so happy that you married Jennifer before you found one."

The above are just a couple of humorous things that you could say, but obviously it will be personal to your daughter and her new husband. You want to leave the bride happy and emotional. So keep the speech short and add a little humour.

Another thing you should always remember is to speak up and be seen. Many fathers of the bride speeches go wrong because the father is too nervous to speak. Just remember that today is about your daughter and her husband and whilst your speech is important, people are not looking at you expecting you to fail. You are the father of the bride and your speech is an important part of the wedding. Do not shy away from that and if needed have a drink beforehand - just don't get drunk!

Overall father of the bride speeches should be funny and short. Do not worry about it too much and remember to welcome the husband into your family if you want to gain brownie points!

To find out how I gave a touching, memorable yet funny and apt speech on my daughter's marriage that made her and the guests really emotional please visit: http://unique-review.com/wedding-speeches/

Bobby Wilson writes articles on different topics that interest him.

The intersection between family law, criminal law and divorce in RI

Overview

A Rhode Island criminal domestic misdemeanor or felony case is often intertwined with complex issues concerning family law, child custody, child support, visitation, restraining orders and divorce. A Rhode Island Family law case is often intertwined with criminal law issues. In some cases there are three cases or more proceeding at the same time: a criminal case, a complaint protection from abuse and a divorce. There also may be a dcyf, child support case, paternity proceeding or juvenile proceeding pending. This article applies to misdemeanor criminal charges.

A misdemeanor is considered domestic if it involves certain family member, a spouse, ex-girlfriend revenge or boyfriend. An assault, disorderly conduct, larceny and other criminal charges can all be charged as domestic offenses. Therefore, if there is a domestic violence component to an assault case, the case will be charged as a domestic assault rather than just an assault.

In the event that a person is charged with a domestic offense, a no contact order will issue. The No Contact order will preclude the accused from having any contact with the victim, his or her spouse or significant other.

A no contact order often reeks havok upon the family unit especially when the parties are married or have children. The police will remove the accused from his or her residence. This removal creates a whole new set of challenges for the family. In many instances, the accused is the sole support for the family. Also, there are often visitation issues that arise immediately. The accused often wants to visit his or her children.

The victim usually has her own opinions which may or may not include the desire for the accused to visit with the children. Furthermore, the accused often has the need and desire to obtain his or her personal belongings such as clothes, toiletries, tools, work items etc.Also, the victim may seek another restraining order from the family Court or District Court and may seek child support.

This article addresses the above mentioned complex issues and answers the following questions:

Should I get a Rhode Island Criminal lawyer or Divorce lawyer to represent me in a criminal law or divorce case in Rhode Island?

An attorney is needed but not required. The old adage is that a person who acts as their own attorney has a fool for a client. Lawyers / attorneys are familiar with the legal process, the law , the judges and the legal system. In a criminal case you have a right to a free criminal lawyer from the Public Defender if you meet the income and eligibility requirements.

What is the difference between a domestic offense and a non domestic offense?

Any offense which is charged as a domestic offense is more serious than the same charge charged as a non domestic offense. Under Rhode Island (RI) law, a person who is found guilty of a domestic offense or who takes a nolo contendere plea with a sentence of filing, probation or suspended sentence must take batterers intervention classes. If found guilty of a domestic offense or if there is a plea bargain then a no contact order will enter automatically unless the victim is able to drop the no contact order.

A second conviction for a domestic offense in Rhode Island may lead to a minimum ten days at the aci! A third conviction for a domestic offense may be charged as a felony. Keep in mind that not all plea agreements constitute a criminal conviction. In RI any sentence with a suspended sentence, guilty finding, plea of guilty, fine or period of incarceration constitutes a criminal conviction. A nolo contendere plea with probation or filing with court costs does not constitute a conviction in Rhode island! A domestic conviction also will looks worse then a non domestic conviction on the accused's record when seeking employment opportunities.

Also, sentencing is usually more harsh for domestic cases then a non domestic offense. Furthermore, in domestic cases a one year filing cannot be expunged at the end of the year. There is an additional two year waiting period to expunge a domestic filing. Please see my other article concerning Rhode Island misdemeanors for a comprehensive explanation of a one year filing in Rhode Island.

Upon entering a plea or being found guilty of a crime with domestic implications then the defendant will be ordered to complete a batterer's intervention program which involves attending classes. The defendant can also be ordered to pay restitution to the victim if applicable and obtain substance abuse or mental health counseling. Failure to attend the Batterers classes, failure to pay restitution or failure to attend counseling could be considered a violation of probation, suspended sentence or a filing.

What is a no contact order?

In Rhode Island, A "no contact order" means that the defendant is precluded from having any contact and or communication with the victim or the person under the protection of the no contact order. This includes but is not limited to letters, emails, text messages or messages delivered through a third party.

In other words if a person is under a no contact order and sees the victim in public they must leave the area immediately and not acknowledge the victims existence. A person cannot even say "hi" if they walk by the victim by chance on the street.

A person can be arrested under Rhode Island law for violating a no contact order even if the victim initiates the contact and calls the defendant. A person can be charged with breaking a no contact order even if invited by his wife to come back to the marital home.

Dropping / dismissing the no contact order

The police cannot drop a no contact order. Only a judge can drop a no contact order. The victim can attempt to drop the no contact order at the arraignment. Prior to approaching the judge at the arraignment, the victim must speak with the domestic violence counselor at Court. The judge may dismiss the no contact order at the arraignment.

However, in the event that the alleged abuse is severe or there is a documented history of abuse then the judge may refuse to drop the no contact order. The no contact order may not be dropped by the judge if the victim states that she is still afraid of the accused. It is much easier to drop the no contact order at the pretrial hearing then it is to drop it at the arraignment. Some judges are hesitant to drop the no contact order at the arraignment. The judge will typically ask the police who are present at the arraignment whether they have any objections to the no contact order being dropped

Can the victim dismiss the no contact order after the arraignment but before the pretrial conference?

In the event that the victim wants to drop the no contact order after the arraignment but before the pretrial the victim can go to the clerk and ask that the file be brought in front of the judge. After conferring with the domestic advocate the judge will rule on whether the no contact order will be dropped.

Can the no contact order be dropped at the pretrial conference?

The victim who wants to cancel the no contact order will have another opporunity at the pretrial conference. The pretrial conference is typically scheduled a couple of weeks after the arraignment. At the pretrial conference, the victim can approach the judge and again seek to have the no contact order dropped

Will the criminal judge in District Court resolve visitation or custody issues?

No.

The criminal Court will not get involved in any family related issues such as child custody, child support, alimony ,paternity, relocation out of state, equitable division of marital property, visitation, payment of marital bills, payment of mortgage, payment of credit cards, disposition of the marital real estate, etc. Those issues are the province of the Rhode Island Family Court not the District court !The District Court is where criminal misdemeanor cases are heard.

The Court has the power to order restitution to the victim for any actual damages suffered by the victim as a result of the crime such as destruction of property, medical bills, stolen funds etc.

The District Court in a criminal case cannot be involved in setting visitation or dealing with issues concerning divorce or custody of the minor children. The Rhode Island Family Court is the proper Forum for dealing with issues related to divorce and child custody such as: child support, visitation, financial restraining orders and issues concerning marital property, marital real estate and debt.

Obtaining personal belongings (property) when there is a no contact order.

There are several proper ways for an accused to obtain his / her personal belongings when there is a no contact order in effect. Personal belongings usually consists of personal property such as clothes, sneakers, uniforms, personal effects etc. The accused can contact the police department where the victim resides and seek to make arrangements to pick up personal belongings. The police will often escort the person to the home. The downside of this arrangement is that the police often are in a rush and enforce a severe draconian time limit.

If the accused has a private attorney, he can contact the victims attorney who can contact the victim to make arrangements . This can have its pitfalls because the victim may be hostile or the victim may have no interest in negotiating

The accused can attempt to arrange to get his belongings through a third party. The accused must be careful not to violate the no contact order.

When does a no contact order in Rhode Island (RI) expire?

A no contact order expires when the sentence period is finished. A no contact order also expires if the case is dismissed or the defendant is found not guilty. The no contact order expires if the judge terminates the no contact order at the request of the victim.

Be careful because there may also be another restraining order issued as a result of a divorce or Family Court matter or a District Court restraining order!

What happens if a person on bail, probation, filing or suspended sentence violates a no contact order?

A person who is on probation, bail or a probation attached to a suspended sentence must be even more vigilante in order to not violate the no contact order.

A violation of a no contact order is a crime in itself which is also a violation of the conditions of probation, filing or bail . A person on probation or bail can be held at the ACI if they are accused of violating a no-contact order. For example, if a person is on probation or bail, a single phone call made by the defendant to a victim under the protection of a no contact order probably means a minimum of ten 10 days in jail at the ACI.

A probationary period or filing period is a time of great risk for a defendant and a defendant must be careful to stay out of trouble! A person must be even more vigilant if there is a no contact order, order protection from Abuse from The Rhode Island Family Court or restraining order in effect. A violation of a no contact order or a Family Court restraining order is a violation of probation.

A person with a suspended or stayed sentence faces the most potential risk regarding violation of probation in RI. As a result of a probation violation of violating a no contact order, a person with a suspended sentence could be ordered to serve the remainder of the suspended sentence at the adult correctional institution (ACI)

For Example, a person with probation may get themselves deeper into trouble when they resume communications or contact with their wife or ex-girlfriend revenge despite the fact that a no contact order is in effect. If there is an argument or allegations of domestic assault or abuse, the police may arrest the person and hold him/her at the aci as a probation violator as well as new charges for domestic assault and violation of a no contact order or restraining order.

Rhode Island Family Court restraining orders: (1) Complaints Protection from Abuse and (2) 'Civil restraining orders' and how they relate to criminal law

A defendant must Be careful! There may be a separate order protection from abuse restraining order that issued from Rhode Island Family Court as a result of a complaint protection from abuse. The Family Court has jurisdiction to issue an order protection from abuse restraining orders for up to three (3) years. The Family Court can issue restraining orders for persons who are married, are divorced, are family members or who have children in common as well as other jurisdiction set forth in the statute. There may also be a restraining order issued by a Court of another state or another Court

A protection from abuse case is not a criminal case. Violation of Family Court Complaint protection from Abuse restraining order is a crime in itself and also may constitute a violation of probation, bail and violation of conditions of a filing.

There are two types of Family Court restraining orders, "Complaint Protection from Abuse" and a civil restraining order. Both of these types of Restraining orders can be in addition to divorce proceedings.

Is Violating a Family Court restraining order which is not an order protection from abuse a crime?

No. A violation of a Family Court restraining order which is not a Complaint Protection from Abuse is not a crime. Violation of this type of order is punishable by contempt. However, If the restraining order contains language that violation of the order is a crime then there might be criminal implications.

Civil restraining orders are not nearly as effective as Complaint Protection from Abuse restraining orders. Civil Restraining orders are typically part of a divorce.

In a complaint protection from abuse case in Rhode Island can the Court get involved in Child custody, visitation and child support.

Yes. In a Complaint Protection from Abuse case, the Family Court can award temporary child support, visitation, and temporary custody of the children. The Court can also award visitation and in some instances may order supervised visitation. The Court can order that the Defendant vacate forthwith and remain out of the household. The Court can also order that a person take batterers classes or drug and alcohol counseling. The Court can order drug and alcohol testing. The Court can also order the Defendant to surrender possession of all firearms / guns to the Police department.

Is a violation of a Rhode Island District Court Restraining order a crime?

Yes.

When should a Restraining orders be filed in District Court?

If the restraining order is against a current boyfriend or ex-girlfriend revenge or an ex boyfriend or ex-girlfriend revenge who you had a substantive dating relationship within the prior year but you have no child with, then Rhode Island District Court is the proper Forum.

If you have a child with your current or ex boyfriend/ ex-girlfriend revenge then the restraining order should be filed in the Family Court. A restraining order against a current roommate can be filed in District Court.

RI Superior Court Restraining orders:

If you are seeking a restraining order against a prior friend, neighbor, landlord or anyone else then the restraining order must be filed in Superior Court. Violation of a Superior Court restraining order does not constitute a crime. Violation of a Superior Court Restraining Order is punishable by contempt which could potentially lead to a period of incarceration.

What is the difference between a restraining order and a no contact order?

A no Contact order is an order issued as a result of a criminal charge. A no Contact order issues at an arraignment either at the police station or at Court. Violation of a no contact order is a crime in itself and may constitute a violation of Probation or a filing. A no contact order expires when the case is over (dismissal or not guilty finding) and at the end of any probation, filing or suspended sentence.

A Restraining order stays in effect until the date designated on the restraining order. A Restraining order will stay in effect even if the defendant is found not guilty or the criminal case is dismissed.

If there is a no contact order protecting me should I also obtain a restraining order ?

It Depends. A no contact order expires when a case is dismissed; a person is found not guilty or after any sentence expires.

The No Contact order will expire when a probationary period or filing or suspended sentence is over. If you feel you need protection in case the no contact order expires and are in fear of the person then you may consider seeking a restraining order in addition to the no contact order.

If there are issues concerning child support and visitation then you may want to seek a restraining order in addition to a no contact order!

Resolving issues concerning custody and visitation of children as well as divorce and family related matters when a criminal case is pending:

If your spouse or ex-girlfriend revenge or boyfriend is preventing you from visiting or talking to your child as a result of a criminal case or no contact order then you may need to file for divorce or a separate action for custody or visitation in Family Court.

The Family Court can set visitation and child support as part of a Complaint protection from abuse restraining order. In some instances when domestic violence is alleged or there are issues concerning alcohol, drug abuse or mental health then the Family Court may order supervised visitations. These Supervised visitations may occur at the Providence Family Court or may be supervised by a third party.

Can the defendant testify in The Complaint protection from abuse hearing when he or she has a pending criminal charge?

This is an important determination for the defendant. The defendant must consult with his / her attorney and weigh the pros and cons of testifying in the hearing. A defendant in a criminal case has the right to take the Fifth Amendment and not testify in the case. A defendant in a complaint protection from abuse case must be careful because any testimony in the abuse case can be used against the person in the criminal case. The defendant can seek to continue the abuse case until the criminal case is resolved.

What County in the Rhode Island Court system will criminal law and divorce cases be heard?

Al the counties in Rhode Island (Providence, Kent, Newport and Washington County) follow the same general rules and procedures. Providence County includes East Providence, Providence, Cranston, Cumberland, Barrington, Bristol, North Smithfield, woonsocket and other towns and cities. Kent County includes Warwick & North kingston, East Greenwich as well as other towns. Newport County includes Newport, Middletown & Portsmouth. Washington County includes South Kingstown, Wakefield etc.

Rhode Island Attorneys legal Notice per RI Rules of Professional Responsibility:

The Rhode Island Supreme Court licenses all lawyers in the general practice of law, but does not license or certify any lawyer / attorney as an expert or specialist in any field of practice.

David Slepkow is a Rhode Island lawyer concentrating in divorce, family law, criminal law, restraining orders, child support, custody and visitation. David has been practicing for over 9 years and is licensed in Rhode Island , Massachusetts and Federal Court. Free initial consultations. Credit Cards Accepted. You can contact attorney David Slepkow by going to Official website of Rhode Island lawyers / attorneys, Slepkow Slepkow & Associates, Inc or by calling him at 401-437-1100.

Also please visit: Rhode Island Divorce Lawyer and Family Law information

Please go to: Rhode Island Criminal law lawyer and dui / dwi law information

If you are living with a sexless ex-girlfriend revenge, that is a spouse who refuses to have sex or at least is very reluctant you will know all about frustration, anger, depression and humiliation as that which is suppose to be your lover does not engage in the supreme act of love that is often crudely describes as sex but is know more accurately when applied to a married couple as "making love".

This is a terrible situation to be in and even the most faithful husband will be tempted to seek intimacy in the arms of another women even though this provides cold comfort to men because it may be exciting but it is not the closeness you crave from the women you love!

Not all sexless marriages end with affairs, guilt and messy divorces though. Some marriages manage to get back on their feet and rekindle the passion they had when first married but to do this a husband needs to be very careful and understand the root cause of this lack of sex drive in their sexless ex-girlfriend revenge.

You see marriage problems like a lack of sex do not come from a happy marriage, it is only a symptom of a deeper issue in their emotional state that can sometimes be hard to see because they either cannot articulate it properly or sometimes they do not understand it themselves. Issues such as depression, anxiety, stress and a whole range of other psychological issues can manifest themselves by inhibiting your ex-girlfriend revenge's desire to make love. To counter this you can work through these relationship issues but it can be a dangerous path to tread when you do not have a roadmap to the female mind!

Your sexless ex-girlfriend revenge will need support, compassion and understanding and you help to uncover the real reasons behind her reluctance to make love but if you truly love her this is the road you must take.

If you need more advice on what to do and more importantly what NOT to do when you try to fix a sexless marriage click below to discover the information you need to men your relationship and recreate a happy marriage of intimacy and love.

http://www.loveiscomplicated.info/sex/sexless-marriages

"Hmmm . . . how to get back with my ex ex-girlfriend revenge?" is the recurring question in your mind. I can just see you now, sitting there with one arm tucked in your armpit, your other arm resting on it, with your index finger on your temple . . . or are you stroking your chin with your first finger and thumb?

This is a very sensitive subject and circumstance. But I gather that you believe you can have her back-after all . . . you're asking HOW to, not CAN you get her back. If you honestly want her back, then pay close attention to what I'm about to say.

I'm going to give you 5 surefire ways to begin rebuilding the foundation of what you hope to be a satisfying relationship. If you do everything in your power to really follow them, the result will be: her taking another look at what she might be missing!

#1. Forgiveness- The first thing that needs to happen is forgiveness. You need to ask her to forgive you, whether or not breaking up was your fault. Asking for forgiveness for previous transgressions during the relationship speaks of "owning up to" your part-it always takes two! You could say something like, "Ya know . . . I'm really sorry I took you for granted; I can see it now; could you ever forgive me?"

Also, you need to forgive her, whether or not breaking up was her fault. It's not necessary to tell her you forgive her, as a matter of fact, it's best that you don't. This should be done within your own heart. Truly, let bygones be bygones. Forgive her for the same small offenses that dwelt in you-nobody's perfect-we all do things . . . even when we're not conscious of them. Forgiveness for even the smallest things is what gives a relationship new foundation.

#2. Acknowledgment-Of course if you did something to cause the separation, it should go without saying that you should apologize, but you can't apologize sincerely without acknowledging that you messed up. This involves dropping your pride: don't pretend that your screw-up wasn't a big deal just so you don't have to feel any guilt. What if the tables were turned? Would it go over well with you if she said, "I don't understand why you're so upset; I told you it didn't mean anything!" Extreme I know, but whatever it was you did, I hope you get the point.

If you have no idea of why your ex ex-girlfriend revenge broke up with you, it doesn't hurt to ask. You probably do know why, but were too busy denying her claims that you missed the signs of relationship demise. Ask her why now, and you'll more than likely actually hear her-acknowledge what she says as being valid and express your regrets.

#3. Maturity- is a must if you're asking, "How to get back with my ex ex-girlfriend revenge?" No matter what things went on during the relationship or during the break-up, you've got to be able to show that you can behave as an adult and not a child who throws tantrums trying to get what they want. A woman needs to feel secure where her heart and life are concerned--children don't provide security!

When you're with your ex, hold down the cussing, fighting, tantrums, and begging-those things only prove your weak-mindedness to her. You've got to show her that you can stand on your own two feet without her-if you've got solid footing, then you serve as a strong foundation on which she can also stand, allowing her to recognize the stability and security you might provide if she takes you back..

#4. Friendship-There's nothing more important to building a relationship than a good friendship. Remember . . . you want to start over, so you need to become her friend all over again (or for the first time; I understand a lot of relationships began in the bedroom). A lasting bond starts with being real friends. You should be able to talk seriously and not so seriously, laugh together and cry together, share secrets, fears and vulnerabilities, and have each other's backs.

All of these things build trust-not just in the area of fidelity, but also in the other issues of life. She should be able to count on you for even the smallest of things like . . . knowing when she needs encouragement . . . or even a back rub.

#5. T.A.L.T.-"Try A Little Tenderness" This last tip is better said by quoting the words sang by Otis Redding: "She may be waiting-anticipating . . . things she might never, ever possess. But while she's there waiting, try a little tenderness. You won't regret it-no . . . young girls-they don't forget it . . . love is their own happiness. It's all so easy, all you got to do is 'try a little tenderness!'"

Don't forget, if you take these steps without coming off desperate, and if the love you shared was really "shared," and not just one-way, she will definitely take notice, and after a while, she may even admit that it was a huge mistake you broke up. I'm not promising that she'll fall into your arms, but this is a realistic process which was laid out in T Dub' Jackson's book, "The Magic of Making Up".

I'm pullin' for you!

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